How to Talk to Your Kids about Drugs and Alcohol

How to Talk to Your Kids about Drugs and Alcohol

By: Brittany Ford

The “ignore it and it will go away” mentality does not apply to youth substance abuse. In fact, research shows that the earlier parents begin to talk with their children about drugs and alcohol, the less likely they are to struggle with addiction issues. Yet, many parents find themselves at a loss for how to pose such a subject.

Is there a right way to talk to your child about substance abuse, and how early is too early?

It is very important that children feel comfortable talking to parents about sensitive issues, such as use the abuse of drugs and alcohol. Too often, parents attempt to protect children from the realities of such issues through avoidance, unintentionally putting their children at greater risk of unsafe behaviors and drug experimentation. If children do not receive information about drugs and alcohol from their parents, they will seek information from other sources. Depending on which sources the information is received from, this alternative could be severely detrimental.

The Earlier the Better

Although it may seem pre-mature, research shows that parents should begin talking to their children about the dangers of substance abuse as early as preschool age. Conversations do not have to be formal and “scary”. In fact, they should be casual and worked into everyday occurrences. For example, if your child is prescribed an antibiotic or another medication, use the opportunity to explain the importance of following doctor’s orders carefully when taking  medication, and only taking medication that is “prescribed”. Other “teachable moments”, such as commercials on television about use of alcohol or drugs, should be taken advantage of. Keep in mind that children at this developmental level are especially impressionable and attentive to what they are told. After all, young children are referred to as “sponges” for a reason-they seek to find answers to inquiries and understand the world around them.

Keep the Talking Consistent

Don’t make the mistake of talking about drugs once or twice with your child and failing to revisit the topic. As your child gets older, keep conversations flowing and encourage your child to contribute. Ask your child what he or she thinks about drugs and alcohol, if his/her friends has experimented with such substances, etc.  Keep in mind that the more comfortable your child feels talking with you about such sensitive  topics; the more likely he/she will come to you when confronted with pressures and temptations. Always remember that as a parent;  you hold great power in determining whether or not your child will be “drug free”. Even if your child shrugs off your voice and acts as if he/she is embarrassed by you talking to him or her about a sensitive topic, odds are they are still listening.  Remember that the power of the “conscious” is powerful, and it is often your voice they hear when determining whether something is right or wrong.

Okay….But What Exactly Do I Say?

Be honest and direct when talking about drugs and alcohol with your child. When talking with pre-teens and teenagers, do not hesitate to talk about the legal ramifications of substance abuse. Find stories about individuals who have suffered from addiction. Use discretion on details based on your child’s maturity level, but do not “sugar coat” the facts. It is important for your child to understand the realities and consequences  of poor choices. Let them know that substance abuse ruins lives.

 Younger children and pre-teens may benefit from “role playing”. Put on “skits” by assigning your kids/kid’s friends parts and developing a scrip based on scenarios when they may be confronted with substance abuse or drug experimentation . You may choose to tape the “skits” using a phone, IPAD or another device to make it more engaging-your child can watch his/her work when done.

Keep in mind that children respond best to real-world stories that they can relate to, as most young people suffer from the “it wont happen to me” and the misconception that they are invincible. Pre-teens/ teens may benefit from a  Google search  for articles about teens affected by substance abuse. Focus on scenarios that you think your child may identify with. For example, if your child is a soccer player, you may find a story about a soccer player who suffered from addiction.

“Help! My Child or a Child I Know Is Suffering From a Problem with Drugs or Alcohol!”

Unfortunately, even the best parents may find that their child is suffering from issues with substance abuse, and may be plagued with addiction. Such realities are frightening for parents and may be associated with such emotions as fear , guilt and shame. At Self-empowerment, NH LLC, we are here to tell you to stop blaming yourself and stop living in fear for your child’s well-being. Seek addiction counseling and/or family counseling today. Lori Magoon, an MLADC, has helped many individuals whom suffer from addiction and offers a number of different services for both families and individuals.

For more information, contact Lori at (603)470-6938 or selfempowermentnh@gmail.com.

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“She Was a Nice Girl”- A Heroin Addict’s Story

“She Was a Nice Girl”- A Heroin Addict’s Story

She appears clean, well-kept and is considered fashionable in accordance with Seventeen magazine standards, with a designer blouse, dark jeans, leather shoes and jewelry which ties her outfit together perfectly. Her nails are neatly polished and her hair appears smooth and silky, pulled back in a neat ponytail. Her parents are professionals, her father an insurance salesman and her mother a first grade teacher. She grew up in a nice neighborhood with one younger sister with who she held a close relationship. Her parents were very much involved in her childhood, even paying a rather high tuition for her to attend a prestigious private high school. Surrounded by tears of sorrow and expressions of shock and disbelief, in her coffin she lies. She is a beautiful seventeen year whom could have had the brightest of futures. But she has a secret. A secret no one came to terms with until it was too late. She is a Heroin addict.

She always said she would never try drugs, president of the ‘Teens Against Substance Abuse’ organization in middle school and consistent recipient of the high honor roll. She played sports, was even voted Most Valuable Player of the girls’ soccer team. A “nice girl”, she was well liked by her teachers and peers.

Like many teens, she went through a “rebellious stage” at around age sixteen. She began dating an older boy and surrounding herself with an older crowd whom challenged authority and abused high allowances from their wealthy parents. All it took was one party. One Percocet. One was enough. She was hooked.

Soon she could not go a day without at least one Percocet. And then she began needing one every twelve hours. Every six hours. Every three. She began needing more and more to get the same result the drug had initially given her. And soon, the “feel good” (high) of the Percocet pills no longer existed. She found that she needed Percocet just to wake up in the morning and carry out a day of basic tasks. A task as simple as brushing her teeth could not even be imagined without Percocet.

Her parents were well off financially and gave her money to buy things that she wanted. But even an unusually steep teenage allowance could not fund the high price of Percocet, especially as she continued to increase her dosage of the drug. Before she knew it, the “nice girl” was stealing to buy pills. From her friends. Parents. Grandparents. She even stole from her younger sister’s piggy bank.

Dreams of becoming a veterinarian and playing college soccer were put on hold as she found herself injecting Heroin into her veins. Another addict told her that the Heroin high was comparable to the Percocet high at less than half of the cost. She cringed at the idea of injecting a needle at first. She didn’t see herself as the type of person whom would do such a thing. But she needed it. Couldn’t live without it. Didn’t care about much of anything else. Just needed the high.

Her parents were in denial. As they had always been close with their daughter, they noticed uncharacteristic behavior. The school even called expressing concerns about their daughter, as her grades were declining and she had been kicked off the soccer team for failing to attend both practices and games. They addressed the behavior of course, “grounding” their daughter and providing standard lectures. However, at the end of the day, they shrugged it off, telling themselves that their daughter was simply going through a phase and would soon come out of it. They didn’t know that their little girl wore long sleeves, even in the hot summer, as a means to cover her track marks. Or that she had gone as far as having sex with a stranger for money to fund a Heroin fix.

Eventually, her parents recognized that a drug problem existed. But they loved their daughter and trusted her enough to believe her when she said that she was fine and could quit using without professional help. Her mother, in seeing how much her daughter was suffering from withdrawal, even gave her daughter money, knowing in the back of her mind that it would more than likely find the hands of a Heroin dealer.

It was her sister whom found her unresponsive on that rainy spring morning. Her twelve year old sister. She found her surrounded by syringes, her face lifeless and her body cold as ice. The discovery was enough to send her sister into a tale-spin of depression, a depression so severe that she spent a significant amount of time in a residential mental health facility.

This story may seem like a long shot. A rare incidence. But in fact, stories like this one are increasingly common. Heroin use has spread like wild-fire in the state of New Hampshire, affecting every population, even the “nice girls and boys”. And codependence is just as common, an understandable reality. Parents are instilled with the instinct to protect their children from pain, and there is no easy way to process and support a child’s struggle with addiction.

So How Do I Ensure that My Child Does Not Meet the Same Fate that the Girl in this Story Met?

Parenting is more stressful of a job than ever. As we continue to hear about the rise of such fatal drugs as Heroin in the state of New Hampshire; support from professionals trained specifically in working with families dealing with addiction issues is more important than ever. Self-Empowerment NH, LLC specializes in working with families suffering from substance abuse issues. Through both individual counseling and family counseling; Selfempnh is here to serve as an empathetic, confidential and non-judgmental support system.

Self-Empowerment NH, LLC is also excited to announce half and full day presentations, one in which is titled Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse in the Workplace. Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse in the Workplace is an interactive presentation geared for parents and educators seeking education about youth substance abuse. Learn about the signs and symptoms of youth substance abuse by drug of choice, and appropriate steps for intervention and recovery. For more information about the signs of youth drug abuse, counseling and group services and/or presentations, please contact Lori Magoon, MLADC, LCMHC at (603)470-6937 or selfempowermentnh@gmail.com.

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Less Stressed and Anxious in 2014: Make Counseling Part of Your New Year's Resolution

Less Stressed and Anxious in 2014: Make Counseling Part of Your New Year’s Resolution

What is Stress?

Stress can be defined as a burst of energy which serves as a natural indicator in which decisions one should make. Stress helps human beings to stay safe, make goals and maintain motivation. Associated with the brain’s fight-or-flight response, stress causes such chemicals as Cortisol, Epinephrine and Nor epinephrine to enter the body and raise blood pressure and heart rate.

What is the Difference Between Good and Bad Stress?

Stress can be beneficial to humans, hence why it exists in the first place. Stress can aid individuals in efficiently accomplishing tasks, and may even boost memory. But what happens when stress and anxiety overcome your life to the point that you constantly feel on edge and worried? What happens when your sleep and eating habits are interrupted as a result of stress and states of happiness are replaced with overwhelming anxiousness? As a result of the pressures of twenty first century society, “bad stress” plagues many individuals, making it difficult to live fulfilling and successful-by-definition lives.

Why is “Bad Stress” Bad?

Individuals plagued by chronic stress and/or anxiousness recognize that such conditions can greatly affect one’s quality of life. As a result of stress and anxiety, one may experience:

·         Depression- More often than not, stress and anxiety are related to both minor and major depression and depressive tendencies.

        Lowered Nutrition- Stress and/or anxiety can cause individuals to refrain from eating an adequate amount of food or cause individuals to over-eat. Both of these can cause lowered nutrition and at-risk health.

·         Lowered immune system- Studies show that individuals whom suffer from stress and anxiety get sick more often than those who do not.

·         Inability to concentrate and complete tasks- Those who suffer from stress and anxiety may also experience lowered productivity and concentration which can affect all areas of life, to include relationships and success in the workplace.

·         Body aches- Stress and anxiety often cause physical ailments which makes for both mental and physical disturbances.

·         Interrupted or inconsistent sleep habits-People whom suffer from stress and/or anxiety may find themselves sleeping much less or much more than normal, both issues which interfere with wellness and daily life. Irritability often develops in those individuals who lack sleep as a result of stress and/or anxiety.

·         Headaches- Both severe and non-severe headaches can be symptoms of stress and anxiety.

Make it your 2014 New Year’s Resolution to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

You know your quality of life would improve significantly if you were to reduce stress and anxiety. However, like most things, “it is not that easy”. It is one thing to recognize the ailments stress and anxiety bring to your life; and another to actually take steps to reduce their presence. So why not seek a professional, an individual who actually specializes in helping individuals whom suffer from high stress and anxiety, and has helped many individuals before you?

At Self-empowerment NH, LLC, we understand how difficult it is to manage the high pressures in today’s society and to live with “bad stress”, anxiety and depression, (as depression is often closely associated with both “bad stress” and anxiety). A counseling company located in Concord, NH; at Self-empowerment NH LLC, we have an extensive background in treating individuals suffering from  Ancthe stresses of life, to include individuals with Anxiety Disorders.

Lori Magoon is a Licensed Mental Health Clinician and a Master’s Level Alcohol and Drug Addiction Counselor. Lori’s effectiveness is based on providing a welcoming, supportive and non-judgmental environment for all clients; as well as use of innovative counseling strategies with scientifically proven effectiveness. Lori stresses that as long as the individual seeking treatment is invested in his/her recovery, anything is possible.

 Self-empowerment NH, LLC accepts health insurance and does offer a sliding scale for those who qualify. To schedule an appointment or to attain more information, please contact Lori at selfempowermentnh.com or by phone at (603)470-6937.

Open the door to self-empowerment and make 2014 a happy one.

Source:

http://www.ulifeline.org/articles/426-good-stress-bad-stress